Like for the rest of the year we are skulking in the shadows, being all fancying all genders like a dirty secret.
I know that only yesterday I was travelling the city via the rooftops at night time lest I was showing my bisexuality for all to see. It was a close run thing. I was nearly spotted casting my eye over an attractive redhead with massive boobs.And then there was a woman I liked the look of too. Luckily I styled it out and walked into a lamp post instead.
PHEW.
Some of us are loud and proud. We know who we are and we refuse to hide.
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Some of us aren't.
Some of us are bullied into hiding who we are by a society that doesn't get it just to save us having to explain about our sexuality again. And again. And again.
Some of us are in a monogamous relationship with someone who is of the opposite gender to us. Happily so. We don't feel the need to cheat. We don't suddenly become straight because partner with penis.
Some of us are not visible because we are gaslighted into believing that it was just a phase by abusive, insecure male partners who cannot believe that they are good enough for us and that by also being attracted to women we bring their masculinity into question and they can't have that.
Also, 'Can I watch?' No. Fuck off.
Some of us get raped as a way to 'make us straight'.
Some of us get beaten up.
Some of us get put into therapy for being 'confused'.
And when we have a relationship with a woman we are called lesbians and men still want to have a go at us.
And oh my gods can the Muckdoc press stop sexualizing and fetishising us please?
We get called greedy like because gender isn't a barrier to attraction we are having ALL OFF TEH SEX. It might be nice but personally I don't have THAT MUCH OF TEH TIMEZ and certainly not ENOUGH OF TEH ENERGY.
Just pick a side. Oh just fuck off. I refuse to play into the gender binary or your bullshit heteronormativity. Just fuck the fuck off.
And *side eyes LGBT community* more needs to be done to include us. So that we are not just this sexy threat who will steal your man and your woman (or non binary person) but we are seen as people. People who just happen to not see gender as a barrier to attraction.
That way we might be safer.
That way we might not have to kill ourselves or do irreparable damage to our mental health.
That way, instead of skulking around like Dr Lesbo and Ms Straight we will be able to just say hello. Here I am.
So happy bi visibility day.
I look forward to the day we don't need it.
Not greedy. Not confused. Just bisexual.
